When your ex starts dating
A year ago, Nancy discovered her husband was dating online and that hurt.
Here’s what happened: I found out last year that he had subscribed to Match.com, (the dating site) saying that he was divorced already, even though officially he’s not.
We are all equal, but when you’re coming from such an emotionally raw, vulnerable state (and you don’t have any boundaries or self love to tap into and depend upon), when your ex starts dating someone that’s everything you aren’t or everything that he repeatedly said he .
You’re convinced he’s changed, you’re plagued with regret, your self esteem is non existent and you don’t know what to believe anymore because this has activated every past pain.
Continuing Nancy’s story, she was married for about seventeen years when she discovered that her husband had been secretly storing her unwanted clothes for years.
And then I want to escape to a remote, Internet-free island IRL.Though you may not understand the feelings you are having, they are a natural part of moving on after a divorce.When you meet someone new, you will have a better perspective on how your ex is feeling about you and the relationship you both once had.2. Most people are puzzled as to why they are jealous of someone they didn’t want in their life any longer. This was YOUR husband or YOUR wife, you expected fidelity, and now it may feel like cheating to see them with someone else.You start Internet stalking their new partner WAY too hard It’s funny how fast a simple “in a relationship” status can devolve into creeping on your ex’s new girlfriend’s sister’s wedding photos. For some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since A) she already has the ex and B) you don’t really want the ex anyways.It’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. The fix: It’s important to remember that your relationship ended for a reason, and that no matter how similar or different you are to the you-replacement, that isn’t going to change the fact that you and your ex weren’t a good match.